Islamic Marriage: Guidance for Successful Marriage and Married Life
Instructor(s): Shaykh Faraz Rabbani, Ustadha Shireen Ahmed
Department: Living Religion
Course ID: GEN180
Starts On: Not currently offered.
Length: 12 weeks
Marriage is the foundation of human life, a Divine gift, and a Prophetic sunna. This course guides the student towards drawing closer to Allah through getting married at the right time, in the right way, to the right person, with the right understanding of the keys to successful marriage. The course explains how to deal with the key challenges of getting married–and upholding successful marriages–in an effective, practical way, in accordance with the guidance of Allah and the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him).
12 downloadable lessons, 3 live sessions.
Lesson One – Marriage as Spiritual Act. Why Marriage is Half of Religion.
- Why is Marriage Half of Religion?
- Understanding the Qur’anic Guidance on Marriage
- Key Prophetic Hadiths on the Spirit and Purpose of Marriage
Lesson Two – The Prophetic Model of Marriage
- The Religious Ruling of Marriage: A sunna that can be haram at times
- The Four Key Considerations in Marriage
- Key Prophetic Teachings on Getting Married
- Intentions in Marriage
Lesson Three – Whom to Marry
- Prophetic Guidance on Whom to Marry
- Self-Awareness: Where you’re at, and what should be seeking
- Advantages and Disadvantages of Marriage
- When to marry, when not to marry
- What to look for in a spouse
- How to find the spouse?
- Common sense, caution, and custom
- The Parent Factor
Lesson Four – The Process of Getting Married
- Convincing parents
- Considering arranged marriage?
- Converts, the newly-practicing, and marriage
- Taking the means, and ways of finding a spouse
Lesson Five – Getting to Know & Engagement
- How to find out about the prospective spouse
- Guidance & Cautions About Searching & Engagement
- How long to wait before Engagement?
Lesson Six – Wedding Preparations and Issues
- The “Islamic” ceremonies: marriage (nikah) and the walima
- Considerations in weddings, questions of cultural practice & legal limits
Lesson Seven – Marriage Contract & Agreement
- The Marriage Contract: key things to stipulate
- Mahr and right of divorce
- The Marriage Agreement (Prenuptual) and things to include
- Letter and Spirit of the Islamic Law
Lesson Eight – Successful Marriage: Rights & Responsibilities
- What a successful marriage needs
- The reality of character and its practical manifestations in marriage
- Overview of rights and responsibilities
Lesson Nine – Rights & Responsibilities of Husband and wife
- The legal reality of the marriage relationship and its sunna spirit
- The rights & responsibilities of the husband
- The rights & responsibilities of the wife
Lesson Ten – Dealing with Disputes: Why Disputes Happen in Marriage
- Eleven common reasons why disputes happen in marriage
- Common problems in marriage and Islamic guidance & counsel
Lesson Eleven – How to Resolve Disputes and Repair Relations
- Dealing with disagreements & disputes in marriage
- How to respond to your spouse’s errors, wrong, and shortcomings
- Common problems and preparing for prevention
Lesson Twelve – Closing Counsels on Successfully Getting Married
- Ten keys to successful marriage
- Summary of the key lessons of the course
- Closing counsels from leading Western and Eastern Muslim scholars
Requirements & Prerequisites
As-salaamu Alaykum wa rahmatullah,
I, too, found this first lesson very profound. I have read other books and articles and listened to other lectures on Islamic marriage, however the commentary provided on the hadith and verses mentioned offered new depth and insight. Ma sha Allah. I agree very much with Khidr’s response–I feel I have a deeper understanding of what it means for marriage to be half of one’s deen. May Allah reward Sh. Faraz and the SG staff for their efforts.
Wa Salaam, Sakina Grome
Assalamalaikum wa rahmatullah,
I’d also like to thank Shaykh Faraz and Ustadha Umm Umar for making this wonderful course possible. I took so many valuable lessons away from it, and Inshallah I will work hard to implement what I learned, in choosing a spouse as well as after marriage Inshallah.
The main point that really stuck with me is that we need to find a spouse who brings us closer to Allah. I’ve always heard that we should choose a spouse based on his religion, but I realized that I didn’t really know what that means. Like Shaykh Faraz mentioned in the earlier lectures, we can’t just look at things on the surface and decide if someone is religious or not. His words “someone who will bring you closer to Allah” really hit home, and changed my perspective. Also, it made me take a hard look at myself and recognize my shortcomings…because if I expect for my husband to bring me closer to Allah, I should likewise bring him closer to Allah.
I think another really important point Shaykh Faraz made that stuck with me was when he said “no one will test your patience like your spouse.” Which initially made me laugh, but when I thought about I realized how true it is. We grow up in the Cinderella/Bollywood generation and expect marriage to be a fairy tale, so many of us are unprepared for the challenges that are inevitably faced in a marriage. Acting and reacting in a manner most pleasing to Allah is such great advice–of course it will take hard work, which starts from now Inshallah. – Faiza Patrawala
Alhamdullilah, the course on Getting Married was immensely helpful. I’ve had a fearful perspective on marriage and wanted to know the essence and wisdom of marriage in Islam. The course has really opened my mind and heart about marriage to a whole new level. Shaykh Faraz Rabbani explains everything wonderfully and the live class was also very beneficial and a great chance to interact with the teacher directly.
(K.A, Saudi Arabia, Winter 2012 Student)